Hustle, hustle, hustle. Do you see this all over the interwebs and social media these days? I sure do.
“The hustle is real!”
“Make today your bitch.”
“Dream big. Wake up. Hustle. Repeat.”
“Hustling is a habit, not a one-time event.”
“Everyday I’m hustling.”
“Nobody cares. Work harder.”
“Good things come to those who hustle.”
Just search #hustle on Instagram and you’ll see what I mean.
I have to say, this hustle thing bugs me.
Yes, we for sure need to get things done. But I think the “hustle” mentality risks sending us in the wrong direction. I know it has for me.
When I feel like I need to hustle, this means I’m in my masculine energy of pushing and forcing. It is probably the worst frame of mind for me to be in. Why? Because when I let my masculine get-it-done-brow-beating side run the show, my work feels so. freakin. hard.
Have you experienced this? Force. Push. Under the gun. Anxiety. It’s pretty dreadful.
If I’m trying to create something, this mentality is deadly. Because in this place, there’s no space for creativity. There’s no enjoyment. And what I do come up with most times feels flat…disconnected…stuck.
And worst of all? Hustle has lead me to major rock bottom burnout in the past.
Following the masculine way is an ingrained habit in our culture (and by the way, this has nothing to do with being male or female). Most of us have been taught that we must work hard and get the job done at all costs. We are conditioned to think we have to hustle.
I think so many of us are also afraid that if we don’t let the masculine rule that we’ll never accomplish anything. And to top it off, that critical voice in our heads wagging it’s finger always shows up with shaming force. We’re totally immersed in this energy and mindset.
But, what if we could ease up on the hustle a bit?
What if we allowed more of our feminine side into the picture?
Allow more space to create. To get into the flow. Relax a little. Daydream. Wonder.
For me, tuning into my feminine side is about trusting myself and my intuition. Tapping into something deeper that’s not available when I’m trying to force it.
It’s also about letting go a bit — realizing that I don’t totally run the show. When I release my death grip, I allow for co-creation and the flow of ideas. All kinds of magic shows up.
Make no mistake, we do need our masculine energy.
I’m not saying there’s not a time to dig and do the work because there sure is. We must complete things. We must get things out into the world. If we fall prey to resistance and don’t finish projects, we lose out on the gifts of our own personal creative process and sadly the world misses out on our beautiful message and work.
Exploring this dance between masculine and feminine energies has been big for me over the past several months. It has changed things in ways I’m just beginning to experience.
What I have learned so far is that I must be conscious of both energies and how they show up for me. And, I have to find ways to allow both in my life and work. So far, it’s made a real difference. It’s lifted a burden and I feel so much better. My work feels more meaningful and I feel much more connected to it.
The big takeaway has been this: I allow space for creativity, but I also commit to myself exactly what I plan to accomplish.
I give myself a reasonable goal and don’t overload myself. And the most beautiful thing of all? After a longtime struggle with not completing things and disappointing myself, I have a renewed sense of trust in myself. This has been key in allowing my creativity to flow and more personal fulfillment.
The reality is that you’ll never get your message out into the world in a way that feels good and authentic if you’re constantly working against a huge to-do list, pushing your creativity into a corner, and forcing.
So, here’s my questions for you: what if you could ease up on the hustle? Take a breath. Allow space and flow. Be kind to yourself and set reasonable goals and trust that you’ll see them through.